“…But I have learned the hard way that you can’t converse or reason with dementia, it doesn’t know you or care about you, and it can become enraged and violent when it feels afraid or thwarted.  Dementia has its own bizarre reality, and engages in magical thinking and ‘covering’ behaviors that at first glance seem ok to outsiders, but break down under close scrutiny. 

Dementia takes responsibility for none of its choices or actions, blames all of its problems and failures on the caregiver, and conveniently forgets the entire hurtful scene just in time to demand yet again what it wants… 

Dementia slowly and insidiously destroys the mind of the person you know and love, taking over their body and looking out from their eyes.  Worse yet, every time you have hardened your heart and made the decision to ‘just deal with forcibly moving them into full-time care,’ dementia will release its grip just enough to allow a glimpse of your loved one, and your heart breaks all over again.  It’s like the Pod People, only it’s not a movie that ends in 90 minutes…”